My dad died last month. He managed all the finances all through his and Ma's married lives and has left her well provided for. Really, unless she needs to go into a home I doubt there's anything she's really ever going to want that she's not going to be able to afford as she's not an extravagant woman. She lives with me and my son (and my father did too) and I pay all the day to day bills for the house.
Even before her dementia I don't think Ma would have managed balancing a cheque book or paying bills but now, in the aftermath of Daddy's death, we're facing a whole new set of problems and I wonder if anybody's got any solutions.
Basically Ma cannot understand that she has money and that it's accessible in a couple of banks. I've tried listing the names of the banks, how much was in there last time she had a statement, and which bank is the one where the pension comes in.
Every day I have to reassure her that she's not going to the poor house. I've shown her the sum total of all the cash she has.
The local bank knows her and is fairly sensitive to the fact that she really doesn't quite understand what's going on and are always very helpful when she goes to withdraw money, so it's not as if she's going into a branch that doesn't care about her account.
Any ideas what I can do? She keeps saying she wants to go into each and every bank and find out how much money she's got -- should I let her? I just worry that somebody will be very unkind to her or actually let her withdraw a large sum of money that will attract unwanted attention and lead to her being robbed.