My husband is at "short-time-care"

[Poodlewoman]

Since 8 days ago my husband is at a short-time-carecenter. He´s coming home on Thursday. This has been a very different week for me and our 17-years old daughter. No-one to take care of, to keep looking for, to explain over and over again to, and now I´m wondering how we will make it when he comes home. He has been much more worse while beeing there, suddenly he doesn´t remember our home, our adresse or where in our town we live, I´m not sure he remember our daughter or me either by the way. But I hope that he will recognize us and our home when he sees us. He is 66 years so he isn´t so old, the other persons at the short-time-carecenter is older.

The decision to take him to the short-time-carecenter was made quickly, beause of me and the teenager feeling really ill, tired and so on. She is an ambitious student in a special mathematic-class and I´m working 4 days every week with long days (6.30 - 18.00) away from home. One day in every week (exept for weekends of course) I´m home to take care of my husband and help him with differrent kind of things, the other days he manage on his own - with the reslut that our home is in a mess. He is in a day-car-center three days a week though.

This week I´ve been home to take care of myself. I really needed this time without him, it´s hard to say but now I realise how much I needed it. Several times he has called me and asked questions about odd things. So now I really don´t know what I will face when I meet him on Thursday.

[danny]

Short break respite/ care breaks are essential to help recharge your batteries. I hope you have had a well earned rest

Sometimes people take a while to settle again after these breaks but they usually do. I hope all goes well on thurs and please let us know how things are.

How often are you planning to have these breaks, have you got some more booked in.
Some of the people I work with have a week a month others one week every three months.

Good luck and I hope your daughters studies go well.

[Poodlewoman]

Well now he´s home again. He is in his usual condition and has his usual behaviour, I think. But now I understand that there are several things he don´t remember any moore, it became more obvious during these days away from me and our home. In the future (from now and so on) I´m planning to let him be in the short-time-care for a week every month. And he has accepted it.

In Sweden today is a holiday for Midsummer. We have had guests here (our best friends) for a small garden-party in the afternoon, and I think my husband was satisfied with that. But it was a lot of work for me, he´s not able to help me very much. It took him half-an-hour to pick up some pillows from the cellar and bring them out to the chairs in the garden. And with our friends here he just suddenly disappears and is taking a short time-out in bed. Of course I understand he probably needed it, but it lasted just a few minutes. Now I can feel the stress and press coming back, with him in the house again, all you have to check out, make sure he doesn´t fall, hurt himself, make a lot of mess and so on....