My husband is now daily saying he is not at home and I am not his wife. He phones me to collect him to take him home. When he gets like this his agitation leads to agresion and he has hurt our daughter quite badly as she has tried to calm him. I have spoken to his CPN who has sympathised but said this is part of this disease. I know it is but that does not help me deal with it. He goes to daycare 4 days a week now so this does not start until around 5pm and I can get through, with difficulty, until 10pm when I can give him a sleeping tablet and hopefully have him asleep and out of torment by 11.30pm. Other days it will start about 9am and then it goes on all day getting worse and worse with him threatening all sorts.of Out of hours doctors come, give tablet and we have even had to call the police because of violence and he has been taken to A&E only to be returned home again. I have a number for a crisis team who advise calling police or out of hours doctor. When I mentioned this to support worker who then spoke to his CPN I was told that the NHS did not commission the crisis team to deal wth dementia patients. Has anyone any ideas of how I can help my husband with the problem of home and me. More so how to help him not knowing me as this out of the two problems is the one that will agitate him and lead to loss of control.