Good evening all. I wonder if anyone has similar experience with an increasing problem I have with my mother making multiple phone calls to me - often only five or ten minutes apart? I live at some distance and have always provided her phone support whilst my sister and a local care agency provide her with the practical support.
I have had to resort to leaving my answerphone full so that when Mum phones and I am out, she gets the recorded voice saying that she is unable to leave a message and she seems to accept that. When she was able to leave a message - then she would leave them continually until she filled the machine - getting increasingly distressed as she seemed to think I was ignoring her.
Her calls now are getting more and more frequent and are especially difficult to manage in the evenings and weekends. Mostly they concern when her next carer will be in and if its arranged etc - or what she should do etc. I have tried reminding her regularly what is happening and when, saying what the time is when I call or she calls me as she is always reluctant to check this herself. I have tried telling her in different ways and asking her to tell me what she understands is happening etc.
If I ignore the phone ringing as sometimes I have to do if in the shower etc, she just keeps ringing and ringing until I answer.
I just feel there must be a better way to deal with this for both our sakes as obviously Mum is anxious and worried and I get increasingly stressed as the day/ evening goes on.
Any help much appreciated. Mum has vascular dementia, has what I believe is called sundowner syndrome and can be very rude and aggressive if she feels she isnt getting what she wants or if you ask anything she doesn't like. I love her to bits but not sure how much more of this I can cope with, especially if I get runs of night calls or early morning ones and so am too tired to do my job properly.
Thanks for taking the time to read this...