Socia lWorker Visit what to expect

[netty13]

Hi

I had a message left on my phone Friday afternoon from a social worker saying she wanted to meet me on Wednesday next week at my mums house which is 200 miles away (when I got the message is was too late to rearrange the appointment weekend then bank holidays) or phone them to ask. Can anyone tell me the sort of things they would want to talk about. Mum has been to the memory clinic and had a CT scan a few weeks ago.

I would be grateful if anyone could give me some advice as Im getting slightly worried about the sort of things the will ask/want to know

Many thanks

Jeanette.

[Billie61]

Hi Jeanette.
When we had the social worker round it was when the decision was made that MIL could no longer care for herself at home.
The social worker chatted to us, then had a one to one chat with MIL while we sat in the next room. We could listen, but she did not want MIL to ask for prompts from us about where she lived etc.
Then we chatted again about whether we were prepared to look after her, or whether residential care was the best option.

It all seemed so sudden, but she was very helpful with information on what help we could get.

[jaymor]

Hi Jeanette,
When we were allocated a SW he came and we talked about my husband and his needs. He offered three days a week day care and arranged that. I am still waiting to be assessed for direct payments so am only paying £20 a week until we are assessed. Could be that we can't afford to keep him there but until we know I am happy for him to be able to go. It has certainly saved my sanity. He then returned with a care plan for my husband and saw me on my own to see how I was coping. He offered me respite in a home very local but I turned it down as I am afraid of what I will face after the respite. My husband is classed as having complex behaviour. I am happy with his support but have been told that once his care plan is deemed to be working we will loose the SW.
Jay

[netty13]

Thank you so much for your replies

I think being so far away makes it difficult as I cant just pop in to visit.

Things seem to be moving quite fast and Im worried Mum is not as good as I thought she was.

Thank you once again

Jeanette

[stanleypj]

It seems completely unreasonable for the SW to assume your availability, which she effectively did with, as you say, the weekend and the two holidays. If it's not convenient, you could presumably leave a message on her phone.

I thought it was rude when my wife's care co-ordinator sent me a letter inviting me and Sue to a care review to be held in our house without any prior consultation.