Need Some Advice

[hollycat]

2jays

Hope this makes you smile, just had one of my silly thoughts ideas:

Buy a horse, get onto the horse naked, stick the form to your chest and do a Lady Godiva........ride naked through the streets of Coventry till they listen.


I hope you can accept in the spirit in which it is given !

Kindest regards

[jenniferpa]

Yes, but wouldn't the hair cover the form?

[2jays]

2jays

Buy a horse, get onto the horse naked, stick the form to your chest and do a Lady Godiva........ride naked through the streets

Kindest regards

What!!!! Do it again!!!! They didn't listen last time!!!

[creativesarah]

lucy was related to lady godiva

really honestly she said she was and i managed to find a link!!!!

You do sound down 2jays anything I can do to help?

[2jays]

Thank you Sarah for your offer of help. Just being there for me helps
Feeling calmer now, stepping back as there really isn't any more I can do for mum, just have to wait for a crisis. When mum asks to go the doctor, (for her breathlessness) I will take her, i am writing to the doctor to ask him to explain when he will consider signing the form, at what level does he make his judgement on as I thought there was a country wide indicator, not just a local indicator. will write to the doctor when I feel the need, (every time mum complains of her breathing I will let the day care know that if they have problems, to contact mum GP. Ditto carers (with the proviso that they also contact me so I don't keep putting myself out to take mum to the doctors)

All in all I feel a bit more calmer.

Sarah did you see my language lesson for you on the slimming thread?
Xx

[creativesarah]

didnt see the language lesson will have a quick peep then off to bed!

[Karjo]

my mums GP signed when she was sectioned. Apparently she must have been just fine before that so no need to backdate! I had requested a backdate of a couple of months to when we had a meeting with him begging him to help us with stopping her driving, and trying to explain just how bad things were. He assured us he had seen it all before and even if she continued driving against police advice accidents that happen are usually minor -yes we know that with the bumps on her car! But what if she wipes out a family....?
Its very strange how she went from their opinion of full capacity with just mild cognitive impairment (nothing mild about it in my opinion -try living with it) able to score 28 on the MMSE to having no capacity whatsoever almost overnight when she once again ended up in A&E after an incident at the local railway station trying to break into cars on the coldest morning of the year!
With her previous history of disruption of A&E which her GP didnt seem to know about(there was no communication between the hospital, the GP and the memory clnic that could keep up with events) the doctor at A&E who had probably met her there before or read her notes declared her as having no capacity and events took over. he was ruthless really but was not going to be hoodwinked or threatened by her like the others..
The council were very helpful though in getting me the forms for him to sign.It was the GP who I felt let us down. Unfortunately he is also my GP and as i cant bare to see him with his condescending superior smug attitude I just hope I dont get ill. Will just hit the bottle instead!
Mum is still sectioned -she is a poor old shadow of herself and we are once again waiting for the system to catch up with her. just hope we can get them to sort the paperwork that is blocking the bed so she can get the nursing home vacancy.I just hope she doesnt die in a psychiatric unit-i know nobody cares about her reputation but I just know she would hate that, and i would feel i had failed her and my dad who died asking me to look after her. I just wish I could but I dont know how and whatever I do it just gets worse for her.

[flowerpot]

Hi 2jays, just to say that I'm thinking of you. You have been very supportive to me in the past and all I can say is for you to look after yourself and I hope you get the doctor to sign. It's an awful path we follow with our loved ones with dementia and when no one listens we end up with odd shaped heads and strange looking walls

Sorry that I can't be more helpful xx

[2jays]

karjo - I am so sorry to read that you too are having to deal with a difficult GP. And everything else that is going on in your life. I'm not a vindictive person, or rather I never was in the past, but doesn't this type of attitude make you want to "get them back" in some way? I would never wish what we have to go through on anybody, but if mums GP could have really painful piles, or a bunion that festers for a while, and nobody listened to them and told them they were over-reacting, that would give me a little smile....

flowerpot - thanks for your support and kind words. In the great scheme of things, it's only a signature, what will be will happen eventually, as has happened for karjo, and others, just so difficult and painful that it seems that it has to happen, in my opinion, in such an inhuman way.


Sarah - Matumaini wewe ni vizuri leo
(hope you are well today)

My step sis is visiting, and she is making me laugh, we are being ladies wot lunch today, somewhere posh I think, either the bakery with a cafe at the back or mukky donalds

Hugs to all xx

[Karjo]

Hurrah!!!!! Something good and I am hoping for light at the end of the tunnel.
the doctor has signed so we can take her out of the unit so she can come with us to see the nursing home we would like. fingers crossed we can all cope with this but I have my hubbie with me who i think she will listen to. i just hope it is not all too much for her but she has always been so independant I want to include her in this and have everything crossed that it goes ok. i'm so excited but fearful too.
if she can go there(if they can get paperwork sorted before the room is taken by someone else and they are willing to accept her) then there is the added bonus that she will have to change her GP!
She is on a section 117 which is why the delay so supposedly they pay towards it but I won't hold my breath on that one till its done and dusted - been too many knock backs on this journey so far.
i can remember a quote from a film called Clockwise -" it's not the despair, I can cope with that, it's the hope thats killing me!"

[piedwarbler]

Hi 2jays, just to say that I'm thinking of you. You have been very supportive to me in the past and all I can say is for you to look after yourself and I hope you get the doctor to sign. It's an awful path we follow with our loved ones with dementia and when no one listens we end up with odd shaped heads and strange looking walls

Sorry that I can't be more helpful xx

Flowerpot has taken the words out of my mouth. Seconded. Hope things improve for you very soon. xx

[2jays]

Thankyou pied. With friends like I have on TP, how can it not get better? HUGS to my friends

karjo - so pleased to read your post. Sending you loads of hugs and support whilst you arrange all that needs to be arranged. Phew not the same GP in the care home - hopefully you won't need to dent your head too much. Xx