My Mum has been diagnosed to vascular dementia since Jan 2012. Slight symptoms did start to appear before hand. We are at the point now were we will start having to pay towards her carers, she has had the financial assessment etc and POA is going through now for me. I have arranged everything for Mum down to meetings with SS, carers and solicitor.
Im an only child with hubby and 2 grown up daughters who support me the best way they can. First issue is with her neighbours, one can be helpful but does insist on `wagging her finger` at me each time I see her saying you need to do, that and the other and asking me what im playing at when things do not seem to be happening when they are, shes does not need to know everything. Another one has accused me of not taking Mum out (she does not like and does not deals well with going out) Rightly or wrongly I said I work 30 hrs as well as part time admin for hubby and do not
drive so would be impractical expecting her to walk to and from my house with me. She said tell her she has no choice just take her. You cannot force her. The thing is these two gossip about Mum to other neighbours, Could it be care for a neighbour and just retired people having too much time on their hands. They make me feel useless even though family say Im doing more than is needed. When i got home today I just flipped screamed at hubby( never done that before poor thing) and stormed out crying in shoes and coat not really suitable for a 4 mile walk. Im loosing it, feel scared and bullied