2 People from Social Services coming to see my Mum and I THIS Friday..

[worriedson1]

This the First time so what should my mum and i expect them to ask us would you say??.

[PeggySmith]

Hi there!
I expect they will just want to know how best to help you both get through all this. I don't really know but wanted to reply so you don't think you've been ignored

[zeeeb]

i would be writing down lists of things that you need help with, sit down with family and ask everyone what they think are the most important areas, and any questions. I find lists are important, because when put on the spot i can never think of things i need to ask.

Best of luck, hope it's a useful experience for you guys

[Grannie G]

It`s a good idea to write things down.

Can you write a plan of your day to give them an idea how much stress you are living with.

[SWMBO1950]

Yes Worried son write a list of all the things you do for your Mum and those things you especially need help with.

I am pleased to read this as your last post indicated that things were getting on top of you so hopefully some help will be forthcoming to take the pressure off.

Good Luck

This the First time so what should my mum and i expect them to ask us would you say??.

[BeckyJan]

Hello Worriedson,
I am pleased you have Social Workers coming to see you and I hope that they can provide some support for you.

If you click on this link you will find a Factsheet explaining Community Assessments and it could well be what the Social Workers will cover for your Mother as the sufferer and you as a carer. You are both entitled to such an assessment.
http://alzheimers.org.uk/site/script...documentID=131

You will see the sort of things that can be provided and I hope it helps you to think ahead of what you might need. Do not be afraid to state things as they are as it is so easy for a carer to say they can cope.

Let us know how you get along.
Best wishes

[worriedson1]

i would be writing down lists of things that you need help with, sit down with family and ask everyone what they think are the most important areas, and any questions. I find lists are important, because when put on the spot i can never think of things i need to ask.

Best of luck, hope it's a useful experience for you guys

A Member of the family, my cousin's wife told me to ask them about attendance and carers allowance.

[worriedson1]

Hello Worriedson,
I am pleased you have Social Workers coming to see you and I hope that they can provide some support for you.

If you click on this link you will find a Factsheet explaining Community Assessments and it could well be what the Social Workers will cover for your Mother as the sufferer and you as a carer. You are both entitled to such an assessment.
http://alzheimers.org.uk/site/script...documentID=131

You will see the sort of things that can be provided and I hope it helps you to think ahead of what you might need. Do not be afraid to state things as they are as it is so easy for a carer to say they can cope.

Let us know how you get along.
Best wishes

Thank you very much indeed, i can assure you that i will be bringing up about my sleeping paterns or shoud i say WHAT sleeping patterns!!!!

[danny]

Just seen this thread/ posted on your other one!!!

[chris53]

Good luck for Friday with your visit, yes very good idea to do a list on what YOU would like them to help mum with,please remember and sometimes they do not, it is YOUR mum they are helping as well as you, and they seem at times to want to do things the way they wish, you know your mum better then someone who only would have spent half hour or so with you and mum,plus a checklist! Please ensure they will send you a report soonest on this assessment email s best, so you can make sure all is correct and nothing has been missed.
Fingers crossed for you, and you have a voice and a good heart, so that will get you through this first difficult hurdle.

[meme]

you can often get a sense of what you may need if...always hoping things dont go that way..however it is better to ask for too much rather than not enough....so don't be afraid to over emphasise your and your mothers needs...good luck