Rest in Peace my 'Lovely Lady'

[TheBigYin]

Jimbo I struggle with poetry sometimes but yours hit me straight in the heart like a sledghammer. My lovely wife was diagnosed with Alzheimer's in 2007 and passed away on the 16th of February this year, (five days after her birthday.)

Like you I have a picture of her in my computer room, where I spend most of my time since her passing as I can't bear sitting in the living room without her, and her picture watches over me from my computer wallpaper. I feel so sad all the time without her and often burst into tears.

I live in a block of flats and one of the tenants tends the communal garden has co-opted me into helping him do the garden for an upcoming competition...I know nothing about gardening! Anyway I now want one of those roses for my lovely lady who had so much love for all living things.

Thank you for that great poem.

BTW In July last year I started a blog called Talking Alzheimer's. It was a way of me coming to terms with this robber of minds.

[Grannie G]

I`m so sorry for your loss BigYin

[Izzy]

It's such a cruel disease BigYin. I hope the gardening helps you. x

[jimbo 111]

Hello BigYin
Thank you for your post Your wife having passed away only a few months past must be leaving your thoughts and feelings raw just now .
When it happens about the time of a birthday or anniversary it seems to add to the anguish ( my wife died just after our diamond wedding anniversary, now two years ago)
It is true that the rawness does gradually diminish, people tell me that
It gets better after a while , but it seems to be a hell of a long while
The poem was posted by 2jays just a few days before my thread
As you say it is a beautiful , simple poem, but the words strike every chord in your heart I shall always remember and cherish the words
Briefly, the ‘Lovely Lady’ rose came about because so many people at the time of my wife’s death referred to her as a lovely lady .
I felt the need for something tangible that I could have as a keepsake to her memory. I bought seven of these roses , kept two for myself and gave the others to my sons and the carers who looked after my wife , I know that at least a couple of members also bought one , So now I have the warm memory that scattered in several parts of the country , each year apart from myself , others will share my joy (if not my memory)
Many members will tell of the joy they get from flowers that were the favourite of their loved ones . Only recently some have mentioned Lilac , and Rhododendrons
Now my ‘Lovely Lady’ is beginning to bloom and even though I may not need a reminder , daily I will look at the glorious blooms and think of my ‘lovely lady’
You may choose something that is more personal to you and your late wife,
My experience has shown that I could not have chosen anything better as a reminder and memorial
The rose is obtainable at some garden centres , I got mine on the web
You will get some idea on the following :-
http://www.google.co.uk/search?sourc...vely+lady+rose

I do hope that you will get some peace of mind in your sad loss ,
Since my own loss I have found good company posting in the ‘tearoom’ and in the past two years I would have been at a dreadful loss without it ( I recommend it ) particularly when I have been feeling low
I’m sure you will get pleasure in working on your communal garden
and I wish you peace of mind now and in the future
Best wishes
Jimbo 111

[Haylett]

Jimbo111, what a lovely memorial to your wife - and one that also gives so many others a great deal of pleasure.