Who pays for the nursing home respite to help me?

[24fan]

I have had a good look round on here but, as usual, with anything to do with funding, direct payments or monies from Social Services, everything is so difficult.

I know that my mother and I are going to get some money for a holiday to have some respite from caring from my Dad, but who pays for the nursing home he will have to go into so that we can get that respite? Can I use his direct payments monies to pay for his accommodation for that week?

I am, as always, loathe to discuss pretty much anything with his Care Manager as her answer to everything seems to be no and if she says categorically that we have to pay for his stay, then that is it, no break for us at all because we can't afford it, simple as that.

I would, of course, bring up the fact that I can't physically or mentally go on much longer without a break and the alternative is that he goes into a nursing home forever if I don't get one which will cost the Council some £35K a year when set against the £1,000-ish for the nursing home for a week's stay but I am always really nervous about SS and their power, their seemingly nonsensical ways of looking at simple issues and problems, and their default setting of "no".

Anyone have a definitive answer? We would all be so grateful.

[janicemlb]

Not sure whether I have a definitive answer nor whether different authorities have different rules but the last 3 times Mum has been in respite (in residential care) the majority had been funded by the council (through Soc Services), i.e they have paid up to a max. of approx £380 per week & I have paid the difference (top up) of what the Res Care Home charged, in our case their fee was £450 a week, so I paid the £70.

As far as Nursing Homes go I am unsure but thought it was the same principal (at that stage Mum only needed Res Care.) She now needs Nursing Care but has recently qualified for CHC funding and then the PCT pays for the respite period. If your Dad needs respite in a Nursing Home, have you been assessed for CHC funding, it might be what you need but I don't know your situation. You definitely need respite though as it can make a massive difference in your wellbeing,
Good Luck,
Janice

[chucky]

Hi, ive had mum in respite a few times and it cost around £130 per week, i remember being told that the charge wouldnt be higher than her state pension. I had dad in respite too before he went in to care full time and his charge was the same for the first 8 weeks then the LA took over the payments. I think it would be wise to contact the SS and ask for an assessment to be done, they will be able to tell you what you would have to pay.

[jeany123]

I have had a good look round on here but, as usual, with anything to do with funding, direct payments or monies from Social Services, everything is so difficult.

I know that my mother and I are going to get some money for a holiday to have some respite from caring from my Dad, but who pays for the nursing home he will have to go into so that we can get that respite? Can I use his direct payments monies to pay for his accommodation for that week?

I am, as always, loathe to discuss pretty much anything with his Care Manager as her answer to everything seems to be no and if she says categorically that we have to pay for his stay, then that is it, no break for us at all because we can't afford it, simple as that.

I would, of course, bring up the fact that I can't physically or mentally go on much longer without a break and the alternative is that he goes into a nursing home forever if I don't get one which will cost the Council some £35K a year when set against the £1,000-ish for the nursing home for a week's stay but I am always really nervous about SS and their power, their seemingly nonsensical ways of looking at simple issues and problems, and their default setting of "no".

Anyone have a definitive answer? We would all be so grateful.

The SW came out and did a assessment for us you should be able to get one done as well .


Jeany x

[24fan]

Thank you for your answers. I guess I'll just have to approach the dreaded S.S. and brave their nonsense!

[jeany123]

The SS and SW have always been very good to us ,they are very slooooow there is no urgency at all with them but we have had good results I hope you do as well . We have only been involved with them for about a year but wish we had contacted them earlier .


Jeany x