I have had a good look round on here but, as usual, with anything to do with funding, direct payments or monies from Social Services, everything is so difficult.
I know that my mother and I are going to get some money for a holiday to have some respite from caring from my Dad, but who pays for the nursing home he will have to go into so that we can get that respite? Can I use his direct payments monies to pay for his accommodation for that week?
I am, as always, loathe to discuss pretty much anything with his Care Manager as her answer to everything seems to be no and if she says categorically that we have to pay for his stay, then that is it, no break for us at all because we can't afford it, simple as that.
I would, of course, bring up the fact that I can't physically or mentally go on much longer without a break and the alternative is that he goes into a nursing home forever if I don't get one which will cost the Council some £35K a year when set against the £1,000-ish for the nursing home for a week's stay but I am always really nervous about SS and their power, their seemingly nonsensical ways of looking at simple issues and problems, and their default setting of "no".
Anyone have a definitive answer? We would all be so grateful.