Hi ive just signed up to this forum as really need some advice re issues with my father and access to my mum .
Mum has just gone from 6 weeks in an dementia assessment unit to a council run care home while we wait for a bed vacancy in our chosen private care home.
I am 1 of 4 children who are all had a very strong relationship with my mum but not with my father.
After lots of agruments and disdagrrements with him he is now saying I in particular cant take mum out when I visit and is also now saying he wont let mum go to the care home all her 4 children want her to go to as he will have to pay a slight top up fee.
Hes getting all the council run home fees paid for so only wants mum to stay there so he dosent have to pay any fees,not because its the best place for mum and her needs.He does have plenty of money to be paying fees.
We also feel its not ideal place for mum there as up to 8 years ago she was the manager there and some of the staff she used to oversee as a manager still work there and we feel this is slightly unethitical regarding her care for her and the staff.
what rights do we as her children have compared to my father?
He is her next of kin but mum was 1 0f 6 within our family and my father is calling all the shots wheras we dont seem to be able to make any desicions for mum as her children.If we thought my father had her best interests at heart we would be very supportive to him but after a very stormy relationship as husband and wife we know this isnt the case. we feel he has all the rights and we have none an are powerless to get whats best for mum sorted out.please help and advice !! thanks.