hi i am new to this and this is my first post. my mum got officially diagnosed with early alzheimers a few months ago: she has had memory problems for quite a while, but this has got rapidly worse as of late. she is on medication, but this appears to have no effect. my wife and i have looked after her finances for a while, as when she did have her own bank card, she was withdrawing about £400 a day and stashing it in her flat, thankfully most of this was recovered. our main concern is with personal hygene, she has carers in every morning, yet refuses to have a shower, and tells lies to them, saying she had been given a shower by us the previous day. her friends in the sheltered housing a reluctant to invite her out, as she clock watches and costantly checks her money.
my main frustration is the effect this is having on my wife, who does a great deal for her, but gets increasingly annoyed because mum just wont do the simple things any more. everything is written down that she needs to do, but doesn't sink in. as a result, we've had so many rows over her that i've lost count, but i always back down, because, after all its my mother not hers. my sister has lived in austrailia for 30 years, and while we have e-mailed her telling of mums problems, its like she's turning a deaf ear and i havent heard from her in over 7 months, including christmas, birthdays etc. this really annoys me, and i feel nothing but resentment towards her. i'm ashamed to say that at times i feel like that towards mum. i'm not used to writing things down like this, but i dont know anyone else going through this, any thoughts will be appreciated.