My Father has advanced dementia and is currently in hospital, he has been on the brink of death with pneumonia & pressure sores. The hospital have kept him alive with antibiotics, draining mucus from his chest, giving him blood, oxygen ,hydration etc. It has been a real roller coaster. At present he is not eating and his chest is now getting better, but he lies in the foetal position and is skeletal. It seems so cruel to keep him going. I love my dad to bits but I feel that when they eventually send him home it will all start over again. He is constantly in and out of hospital with infections. Social services have delivered a hospital bed and hoist to his home. He will be at home by himself with carers visiting 4 times a day. I will visit twice a week My mother is also in a mental home and I have to visit her as well, I feel that my own life is just passing me by. I am going from one hospital to another. How do other people cope. I myself am 72 and somedays I have to make myself go to the hospital each day. I feel so guilty sometimes with the things I think. Is there anyone else who has gone through this and what did they do to help them.