This is my first post on the forum - and is on behalf of my mum. My dad was diagnosed with FTD a few years ago and is declining steadily. He freely tells anyone who will listen that he has dementia and his brain has gone and he now relies on my mum, yet when he has made his mind up about something nobody is able to change it without resorting to really shouting at him. Itīs like a wall that comes down. When I try to tackle him about it, he says that he hears what people say but canīt understand it. My mum is finding it increasingly hard to deal with.
An example the other day was that they were in a building and he decided that he wanted to go outside using the emergency exit. My mum explained that he couldnīt use that door and that he would set the alarm off (there was a big sign there). He argued that he could and so it went on until he pushed past her and went out, setting off all the alarms. This is just one example - there are often 10 or so "stand-offs" during the day.
My question is does anyone have any tips or ideas on how to get through to him, once he has made his mind up that he is right? I tell my mum that it isnīt worth engaging in an argument if it is something trivial, but there are times when she needs to get him to see her point of view either for his personal safety or her sanity! She finds it especially difficult when she is out in public.