Arrrrh. OOOH I could scream the house down right now. As some of you will know from reading my past postings I am an only child and my mum has moderate dementia. She has been in a care home for 6 weeks and was placed in a permanent bed in a lovely home 3 weeks ago. This past week she had really settled down and although a bit grumpy had stopped being verbally abusive and threating to me. My aunt from London who had been winding mum up with tales of getting her out and taking her to London to live in sheltered accomodation was given a stern talking to by the social worker and since auntie dearest has backed off mum has settled down alot. My uncle also gave mum a talking to. All in all i've been a happy bunny this past week and was beginning to dare hope that things might be reasonably ok from here on in. Silly silly me...
When I visited last night mum was annoyed that her expensive designer glasses had gone missing. We took the place apart but they couldn't be found. She even rang me this afternoon still upset but I said not to worry I'd organise a cheap pair and bring them over on Saturday until the good ones turn up.
About an hour ago my phone went again. It was mum. She said the glasses had turned up. I said that was fantasitic news and thought that was the end of the conversation. Oh no!! Some neighbours of hers from back home who are also distant relatives turned up to visit and it all started again. This stupid woman whom I shall call Margaret decided to tell my mum she didn't think she should be there and why didn't she go back to her own home house. She told mum she'd go mad if she had to live in such a place. She more or less took the place of my aunt in that she has totally wiped out all the good work of the past week. Mum got very annoyed with me and said Margaret was right and she wasn't staying there any more. If I wasn't prepared to get her out then she was going to ring Margaret to get her out. I should add that when she was living 5 mins from Margaret she saw her once, maybe twice per month and then only for 1/2 hour at a time. Margaret has a severly disabled daughter so would not be able to be of any help to mum. I am so cross I'm literally bouncing of the celing!!! I'm having to talk myself out of ringing Margaret and letting rip at her. For now I'm being good but so help me if she rings me it will be a very very different story.
I did not get into a conversation with mum. I told her the Tesco man was at the door and that I would see her on Saturday. She snapped she didn't care if she never saw me again.
What is it with interfering people who feel they should comment on suituations they know very little about. I don't see why I should have to go into the finer details of mum's condition with this woman. I know I don't need to justify to her why mum is where she is. The professionals have already did all their assessments and that is why she is where she is. Margaret apparently even suggested mum move in with me. There is no one in my house from 8.00am till nearly 6pm most evenings so that's hardly suitable and anyway i'd not have a marriage before long if that were to happen.
Has anyone any suggestions as to how I fend off these stupid people who are so intent on causing mischief.