I've only just caught up with your thread. I will be wishing your dear hubby to settle very well and quickly. I also hope that you begin to adapt to this new part of your journey and that somehow it makes it easier for you as the caring is now shared. Personally I think that learning to adapt the truth in the other's best interest is a very selfless thing to do. I would normally be totally against it but I learnt with my late husband that it really was in his interest to understand things in ways which helped him travel his journey with the illness he had. The illness changed everything, including how I thought about things.
Sylvia (GrannieG) seems to have this to a fine art with Dhiren. I am sure Dhiren would not be as content as he is without Sylvia having learnt how to communicate with him in ways which create contentment. I also think the staff at the home learn from her. It took quite a lot of learning and once the caring was shared, then it came into its own!!
I hope you slept well and that you feel TP's support today.
Love and a (HUG)