Grandma has been diagnosed with alzheimers a few months ago and her condition is rapidly getting worse. Grandad probably has something similar, or at best servere memory problems.
Grandma was once a very good cook but now is sturggling to make anything, even warming through something in the oven is now a problem and more often is burnt. The problem is she cannot work the cooker or microwave, keeps forgetting and thinks they are faulty so keeps wanting to buy a new one. In reality she has forgotten how to work both and keeps turning the oven and grill up to full blast regardless of what food is put in there. (She has peeled off the sticker my mum put on saying do not use the grill). Im worried she will injure herself as it gets so hot. She is unable to make a list of food to buy as her ability to spell is going and so she just picks up random food from the supermarket. Often there is little in the fridge or freezer. She still enjoy foods but has lost weight which is concerning, Grandad however is still his plump self!
Grandad has never cooked in their 62 years of marriage, nor does he know how to work kitchen appliances so he wont start now. He can't even make a cup of tea so he isn't able to take over. They have tried driving to their favourite restaurant (thats another issue) but keep getting lost so go home and end up eating soup and then a sandwich later on.
They are both proud and very private people. Grandma is stubborn, highly strung and will not admit there is anything wrong. The mere mention of meals on wheels or online asda shopping delivered to her door is met with an emphatic no; she becomes very defensive. Plus, she has a very strict daily routine which wont be altered as their main meal is always at lunch so the family cant be around to help her make it due to work commitments.
People say you can't help those who don't want to be helped, but it sso hard watching her struggle. Grandma I'm sure knows there is something wrong (we didnt tell her the diagnosis as it would upset her too much) but wont admit it.
So I have read the factsheet on healthy meals, helping prepare food etc but that doesn't apply to my situation just yet. Im so worried they arent eating properly or she will hurt herself on the oven. A lot of the time she has hardly any food int he house other than a mountain of fruit, milk and biscuits! How can I get them to eat proper food if they aren't willing to let us help?
Any suggestions to get round this would be appreciated.