My mum hasn't been diagnosed with dementia yet but is waiting for an appointment with the memory clinic. She is 80 and housebound due to arthritis and other health problems and can only walk a few feet. She has carers 4 times a day, and meals on wheels. It is happening more and more frequently that she rings me up usually in the evenings crying because she doesn't know where she is or how to get 'home'. Even though I know she is sitting in her armchair in front of the Tv! Sometimes she says she's in Australia, today she was upset because she was on a 'beach' and wanted to go home. Yesterday I tried for 1/2 an hour to convince her she was in her own home where she had lived for nearly 50 years but she kept saying 'how do you know' and 'why didn't you tell me'. She is in absolute torment, complaining about being lonely and that no-one visits (although someone is popping in every 3 hours through the day), she can't cope with being 'alone'. I feel I can't help her at all when she rings. She just cries and usually hangs up on me even though I'm really patient with her. Would it be wrong if I stopped answering the phone to her? I can tell when it is her ringing me and am getting a fear of the phone going because it leaves me feeling upset. Often the next day she won't remember what happened and doesn't want to feel like that. I've told plenty of people what she is like but no-one wants to help. I wish I didn't love her so much, then it wouldnt be so painful.