Hello! I am a newbie here, and would very much like to ask for advice - Alzheimers is a frightening world, trying to do everything right for my mother-in-law but not knowing how.
My Mum-in-law is in hospital after having a second fall in 3 months. She broke her hip on Xmas eve, and was allowed home after 2 months. Sadly she fell again in the early hours going to the commode after being at home for a short while, and has another fracture tho not as severe. She's not too bad with the Alzheimers, well, she wasnt. She was able to follow a conversation, even though she didnt remember it after a couple of minutes, but always ready to laugh and join in. Since being in hospital, she's got worse - I suspect due to being given tramadol, oramporph, codeine and para's 4 times a day. We've asked the nurse to reconsider her medication because she's just 'not there'. Talking about people who are long gone, many sentences made of just random words - she also doesnt recognise her son anymore and thinks he's someone else. This is a rapid decline in just 12 days.
Do you think these meds are making her worse? The hospital seem to have no training in Alz, and just dose her up until there is little of her personality left. She already has curvature of the spine and it always aches, so am worried that when she's asked if in pain, she will always say yes, and they are dosing her up too much. She's also wetting herself because she's so away with the fairies that she forgets to ask the nurse to use the toilet - and going to the loo was never a problem at home, apart from needing some help to get there.
Also, without meaning to take to mickey out of you all, but how do you chose a home? Mum in law is looked after by her hubby, and although we pop around a lot, hubby is struggling. He had a stroke on Sat night, and is also now in hospital. We think its time for Mum to go into a home, for at least a few months while we look after dad, although he wont be happy for her to go into a home, he's a very proud man. I just dont want to make a mistake as you hear so many horror stories over care homes, and she's so vulnerable. The hospital are trying to discharge her at the moment so need to find somewhere.
Thanks so so much for reading this, I appreciate anything you can tell me. Its all very new, and we're at a loss.