We have lived on our street for 40 years now and in that time made some lasting friendships with people who have also lived on the street for the same duration. My brother lives with my mum and I stay over 2-3 times a week. I live around 30mins drive way. My brother noticed that mum has left the gas on a few times and has tried a few DIY methods to stop her from doing it.
On returning from work yesterday our next door neighbour (I'll call her Celia) asked him over and said that another neighbour had been invited in by mum and that the gas was on. She said that if we don't put mum into a home she will call social services. My brother is getting a gas man out today to disconnect the cooker and I'll drop by the local Alzheimers society on Monday to ask for advice regarding care going forwards.
I took mum out on Tuesday and on returning I met some other neighbours who also said that she needed to go into care now. They are all retired and had been on their daily walk around the block. I did want to ask them if they had invited mum to go on their walk with them as she loves going out and about, rather than twitching their net curtains and gossiping about her, but I get the impression that they find her embarrassing to be with these days. Sorry - I'm sure that's not true, but I'm feeling really scared and bitter. Even Celia, who used to pop in for coffee and to whose house mum also uses to go to, doesn't ask her over any more. Now I'm not saying that these people should be responsible for caring for mum during the day, not in the slightest, but they just don't want to know her anymore. They may want her to go into a home as they think it's the best for us and mum.........I don't know, I feel so helpless and scared. What's going to happen to mum? Can she be forced into a care home?