When my dad says he's going mad and is going to have a breakdown and doesn't know how it will end - I tell him he'll be ok, mum is with him and there is always someone to look after him. but he gets upset and cries. He knows things are wrong but I cant tell him he's got dementia and I'm sure he thinks what I say is futile and I am treating him like a child but I don't know what else to say. We eventually change the subject and he calms down. Then says why did I get so silly what's wrong with me ? I usually revert to 'I think you've been dreaming sometimes it gets very confusing doesn't it.' Or you've been in a deep sleep and you're just waking up.
This usually happens during the night. He gets up to the loo every hour or so, so nights are pretty disturbed anyway.
Just thought I'd see if anyone has some clear statements I could use in this scenario. So he doesnt think I'm patronising and knows I care.