Hi all, this is my first time posting on the internet but I didn't really know what else to do.
I am a single mum of 2, I work and I have been helping look after my Nan who was diagnosed with alzheimers in September 2011. I first noticed changes in her 18 months prior to this but it was a stuggle to get help. Since the diagnosis I have been going to give her medication twice a day and doing other jobs for her that she can't or won't do. 5 Weeks ago my Nan fell over outside the shops and broke her hip. Before this, although there were periods of difficulty, Nan was still functioning pretty well. Since then, things seem to be going down hill rapidly and I'm struggling to keep up and manage these changes.
Since September I had pretty much full responsibilty for Nan with my Mum visiting her once a week. My Mum's attitude towards the illness has been testing and emotionally charged for me. I often feel 'in the middle' and angry at the responses given to Nan when she forgets things. When Nan was discharged from the hospital last week a package of care was put in place. I didn't think I would but I felt redundant not having to do the tablets but I still visit at least twice a day.
Following the admission to hospital, Nan has now become incontinent. I gather it is variable as she sometime goes to the toilet. I do not understand why this has happened? She also doesn't want to eat and this is really worrying me. The appetite has improved slightly since being home but she will still go days without anything. Her ankles are swollen and dry, there are pressure sores on her bottom and she often refuses to get out of bed. I know she is depressed but I wish there was something I could do to make her feel better.
The time I spend there has greatly increased and the jobs are more. My Mum takes regular days off from visiting but I never can. To be honest I do miss being able to go out and plan things but I worry so much about her I would probably feel guilty if I didn't go to see her.
I have been very tired and today was already not a very good day but when I went to nan's it got a bit worse. This morning, there had been a large soiling accident in the hallway and in the living room. I spent nearly 2 hours trying to do something with the stains but I just seem to have made it worse! According to the carers they think she may have been trying to sort out her pad before they got there when the accident happened. I found tonight very difficult. Trying to keep her upbeat while my heart was aching. I love my Nan so much and find it hard seeing her this way