Some of you may have remembered that I posted on here a couple of weeks ago that my sister was taking our 88 year old Mum out of her CH where she has only been for five weeks so that Mum could go to her great grandson's (my sister's grandson) christening. The christening is within two hour's drive and my sister has insisted it is too much for Mum to be driven there and back in a day (it isn't too much) The stupid woman didn't even bother to tell us it was happening and I only found out these plans through the CH staff. Mum hasn't a clue who the great grand son is, who his parents are and sometimes thinks I am her sister (I don't look THAT old!!) In short she is very confused which is why she needs to be in a CH in the first place. My sister disagrees even though two GPs, hospital specialist, Social workers and the care home have deemed her to lack capacity. But my sister reckons she knows all about dementia because she is a "health professional"
Well, I could have put my foot down and blocked this stupid plan of hers as I have LPA for welfare and finances, but my husband advised me against it. The home could do nothing as they couldn't stop my sister, though I could. So now against my better judgement it is going ahead. I know my sister is going to be feeding Mum with evil stuff about me, about how I put her in the home etc and poor Mum is not properly settled though she likes the home. This is a pathetic attempt to get control over Mum and one over on me. She was emotionally cruel to Mum before Mum had dementia and they didn't speak for over a year. She waited until Mum firgot the contention then reappeared. She was always trying to get money from her and we removed her cheque book and her banking because Mum was so vulnerable that she would have given it to her, not knowing whether she had money to give! I had to report her to Social Services for emotionally abusing Mum (Mum was phoning us in tears at 10 pm
after my sister rang her up) SS opened an Adult Safeguarding and partly substantiated my allegations. They advised my sister to tell us when she was visiting Mum so that we could be prepared but she has just ignored that and I know that this weekend is going to be a disaster and we are going to have to pick
up the pieces.
Now I am feeling sad that I let it happen. I just can't win!!!
Sorry for the rant but I am so so angry!!