Hello, I am new to this forum and am feeling so very worried about my Mother's mental state.
She is 85yrs old and lives on her own, I live a 100 miles away and as an only child the burden at times is unbearable as I am at a loss to know what I can do for her to get help as she is extremely difficult (never been an easy person) to help. I have noticed over the last six months that she is becoming more and more forgetful to the point where I have to explain to her how to operate microwave, friends names what day of the week it is, no idea what so ever about the value of money cannot tell the difference between £10 and £20 pound notes.
Recently matters have got worse and she has become extremely agressive towards me and also her friends who now very rarely visit her, she is accusing me of entering her house and taking a door, cotton reels, sewing machine and bobbins, there is no reasoning with her, I was so worried I wrote to her GP a private and confidential letter outlining my worries only for the GP to tell her I had written, so of course this infused the situation even more, she has an obsession about paperwork regarding her pension etc, which is paid direct into her bank where as she is now of the opinion she has to go to the Post Office to collect.
At this moment in time she has lost her debit card 3 times + her bus pass, but all she is doing is forgetting where she has put them.
Her medication is in blister packs but she calls them meals and not taking them in the right order.
I am not in favour at this moment in time and where does one go for help, her GP is of no help, I have spoken to Social Services but unless she co-operates there is nothing they can do.
It would seem to me that until she has a serious accident nobody seems interested but what can they do if she continues to reject all offers of help.
Mum was in hospital recently and because of the Human Rights Act even as next to kin they would not disclose any information.
What can I do ?