My husband has just been told he has Vascular dementia due to strokes, this has taken over two years to get to this stage. Our doc on being asked said just let him enjoy himself, dont stop him doing what he wants. My problem is although i have looked after him for 19 years due to mental health problems I find my memory is getting bad. we spent nearly 5 years in the house because of my husbands illness, havent mixed socially in that time. It is now 4-30am & no sleep again, i have no help at all . Any words of wisdom please.