My dad has recently died after 10 months in an amazing Care Home. It is very sad but he was 89 and it was peaceful and the home were amazing and made his last few months the best they could be for someone with advanced Dementia.
However, I have now discovered that my mum has been paying the fees for the home long after she should have done. My Dad was assessed when he was still living with my mum and he was only just over the £23.250 limit then. He was assessed because he had carers coming to the house to get him out of bed. Then he went into a home. The Council had agreed that when his capital dropped below that limit they would pay £435 towards the care home fees. I know they would only have paid some of the fees until he reached £14,500 but my Dad's capital is well below that now.
However, at the time it was all such a nightmare and so much to learn and the social worker my mum had was useless. It has taken most of the 10 months my dad was in the home for my mum to get legal Deputy status to manage his affairs. She is 91 and didn't realise that he should have been reassessed a long time ago. I live away and have also been in hospital and it is hard to keep an eye on the figures. Also my mum is very proud and is not always easy to get her to let me help.
Now I look at a few bits of paper I realise that the Council owe my mum at least £10,000 if not more and I am going to try and get it back for her as they were never wealthy. Has anyone else had any experience of this? How was it?
I have spoken to the helpline and they have advised assembling all the evidence and they agree it is also Social Services incompetence as they totally abandoned my mum even though they were supposed to be her social worker. The had already left her to care for my dad alone when he came out of hospital with Cancer, Dementia etc and she was 90 and had a broken leg!! Since my dad went into a home they have never been near my mum again.
I know it will be a struggle to get them to pay up but I just wondered if anyone else has been through this and if you have any advice please?