Dad doesn't cope with technical stuff. He struggled before he got dementia and now it's getting worse and worse. Well, that's something anyone with a relative with dementia could have told me, isn't it?
Anyway, he had a television and a video. Then came digital. I told him he could have my digital television, which was in his garage (I use my computer for watching programmes) but no, he paid to have a digibox installed.
Oh dear. It wasn't a question of switching on, it was a question of switching on and pressing three further buttons on the television remote. (And this was via the government scheme.) I tried again and again to explain but he didn't get it.
So while I was in hospital, I installed my digital television and a simple controller and he pottered along, with a bit of help from some dymo labels on the controls. ("video for volume use TV remote")
But it's got worse and worse. Again and again he asks me how to play a video. Simple. Switch television on, switch video player on, stick video in, if it's pre-recorded, it will play. Wait a couple of minutes and if it doesn't play, press play. 4 steps. He can't remember 4 steps, even with it written down.
Now he's got a controller with, I reckon, at least fifty buttons on it. How's he going to remember that HDD is the button for television? How's he going to know what top menu is? How's he going to remember that the eject button on the machine is for DVDs and the eject button for videos is on the remote?
And he paid £350 for this.
I know what will happen. At least twice a week he'll ask me to explain how it works, get more and more frustrated, not listening to anything I say then tell me he can't cope and explain it another day.
The new one will play a video in three or four steps like the old one, but if he can't remember how to use the old one...
I find it hard enough when he gets stressed and takes it out on me, but I'm dreading this.
The stupid thing about it all is that he has a pile of videos but rarely watches them and I can't remember the last time he found anything on television he wanted to watch. Never mind maybe in time he'll just give up on it and ignore it.