I'm not sure I'm posting in the right place, as we've not even attempted a diagnosis, but that is the point and I'm not really sure where we stand.
My nan has lived with us for about ten years, and has always been a bit "vague", and my mum says she's been that way all her life. So when she started mixing up names and forgetting things, we didn't worry too much. However, recently it seems to be getting worse. She constantly asks the same questions, she pieces random bits of information together, she often says the wrong words. Last summer, we went on holiday, and left her in the care of her d.i.l and when we arrived back she was very distressed and apparently had been for the duration. When her d.i.l left, she had to ask us who she was. She's cancelled her phone line, and re-registered with another company, and then when the bills have arrived she's had no recollection of doing it, and we've had to piece together whats happened. She also thought a student doctor had rang, and was coming to see her and so had got ready only to wait all day in vain.
I am home the most with her, as I work nights and so I am the one who is pushing for a diagnosis and help the most. But my worry is taking her to the doctors, she finds it very distressing to leave the house she and talks very poorly when she is in the doctors surgery as she finds it stressful. My dad has inquired about getting a gp involved and the gp insists that she has to come in and discuss it in the surgery. I think at this point, its more important to keep my nan in good spirits, as opposed to fitting into some nhs guidelines. Is there an actual protocol to getting someone to discuss her confusion with her, or can we request someone (a gp) to look at her in a discreet way?
I'm worried that the whole saga of seeing a gp about it will be too distressing for everyone, and that by pushing for this, I'll end up causing more hassle than I'll be helping.
Any advice is appreciated!