Desperate

[Witzend]

Please tell your sister from us that she has nothing to feel guilty about she has kept your Mum out of a care home for probably 2 years. If your Mum had lived on her own without your sister sorting out all the incidents she would have been taken in years ago. She did her best and the situation got too much for anyone to cope with.

Ditto to all that, times a hundred.
Do hope your sister can enjoy some so well earned peace and rest.

[2jays]

Loads of support to your sister and you

Give yourselves a huge pat on the back for all you are doing for mum - and a cream cake, large box of choccies, or whatever you have as a treat....

Your sister has done the right thing, and so have you by being so supportive of her

Thinking of you both
xx

[Biddy88]

@chemmy, @Onlyme @Witzend, @2jays Thank you all so much for the support. X I'm guessing you've all been in similar situations.

I will pass on your messages. She had a relaxing evening with friends last night and she's been out for a bit of retail therapy today.

Mum still thinks there's nothing wrong with her and we're all in a conspiracy to have her locked up (well, ok, she might have a point there! ) She was v angry & horrible to Sis when she visited yesterday but the ward sister told her that's very common, and she should settle soon. Sis isn't going to visit every day - wise move I think; better for both of them.

[lin1]

Sorry Im late Biddy

Thankyou for the updates, I am real sorry it came to your sister having to hold back, it should never have to be like that , its so so wrong to be forced to take this action!

I do hope your sister starts to recover from all the stress etc she has been under soon
You have all been through a horrid situation

Maybe it would be best for your sister not to visit mum for a week, It will give mum more of a chance to settle into her new surroundings, routine and give your sister a much needed and well deserved break

[Biddy88]

Thanks Lin. X

I think you're right. I'm waiting to hear from her how it went yesterday with Mum (she has in laws visiting today so haven't had a chance to talk yet). She was dreading going again. I think you're right, and some time out would be best. We'll all feel better once we know where Mum goes from here. Be good to get her settled somewhere permanent asap.

[Biddy88]

Another update.

Mum's now got yet another bad leg infection so the assessment unit had to transfer her to the main hospital for IV antibiotics. The OT visited her this morning and told Sis that she was cheerful and they'd had a good chat. Asked Sis why Mum had been sectioned! No info about her Alzheimer's and her history, of course.

Deja vu, so now my alarm bells are ringing again, because when Mum is like this she appears to be completely mentally capable and fully understanding of her situation, & she can answer all the usual silly 'what day is it?' kind of questions. Now we know she most definitely isn't, but she's so convincing that I'm worried the doctors will decide that it was only the infection that was the problem and she can go home again.

We also know what a disaster that would be! I'll be heading down there next week for our meeting with her psych on Wed, 25th. Really hope we don't have to start the fight all over again, but we've decided we have to stay firm and refuse to have anything to do with any decision to send her home. She needs 24 hour care, full stop.

Wish me luck?