I am 23 years old. I have moved my grandmother in with me and my fiancée as her then partner was neglecting her and disappearing, leaving her with neighbours for hours on end. She was in a bad way.
My mum is a full-time carer for her mother-in-law who also has dementia and lives with the family. Therefore Nan came to live with me.
I am so glad to see people of my own age on here, as sometimes it feels I'm on my own being so young and being a carer for someone with dementia.
Nan is in the middle stages of dementia, so can't hold a conversation with her and word-finding is nearly impossible.
I get upset when I talk to my friends about it, as they don't seem to understand. If I try to vent off about things to even my best friend all her response is "it doesn't seem like a permanent solution", She is in her final months of nurse training, so thought she of all people would understand, and she has worked with people with dementia. The only other options is putting Nan in a home, and I am not going to do that unless I really cannot cope any more. I have worked in a couple myself, and the first one was just awful, institutionalised, no stimulation, not using the correct manual handling equipment because it was quicker to yank someone by the arms that going to get a hoist. (I don't want this to influence peoples decision to put their loved one into a Care home, as there probably are some really lovely ones, I've just had a bad experience with this particular one.)
Sorry for the ranting. I don't get much conversation here, so I guess I need to get something out, even if it on the computer.
It would be nice to speak to someone my own age who knows what it is like being a full-time carer for a loved-one.