The knife, fork and spoon you are providing will make an enormous difference. Shame about the riser chair, bed, bathroom adaptations, stair lift etc. but I'm sure we don't really need them. The idea that Mom sell her house and move into rented sheltered accommodation and use the money to pay the rent, (effectively making me homeless when she passes on) causing her massive disruption, distress and confusion is a simply spiffing idea too.
Why do you even bother to go to work? I'm sure you could put a big sign saying "^%@? off" on your chair and stay at home. No-one would notice.