My mum has been sectioned(section2)and has spent just over 2 weeks now trying to escape. She is terribly unhappy but is drugged to help calm her which may account for her extreme confusion.(diazepan i think though we haven't seen a doctor since she went in or had much feedback) or it may just be her deterioration.
We have asked how we go about seeing a doctor and have been told the doctor is off sick but there will probably be a ward round on Tuesday we can attend. This was quickly followed by a question on would I be available to care for her. i said it was possible in the day but I would not be able to cope at night.
This is very true as I know if my mum moved in with us and we didnt let her out or do what she demanded she would smash or climb out windows. She did this in her own house and was partly why she was sectioned. She has a terrible temper and cannot cope with being told no, and I am rubbish at telling her no, so my husband would bare the brunt of it which scares him.
WE are looking at a care home today but to be honest I dont think a care home could cope without either drugging her to death (and after reading re Fiona Phillips today the thought is unbearable) or getting the police to restrain her which is what happened at our local hospital before being sectioned. She sounds like a monster but she isn't - she is my mum and i still want what is best for her but i just cant cope.
Anyway to the point of this . She is physically fit which makes her more of a risk as she is so strong. I just dont know how I would cope with her her behaviour at home trying to escape etc and dont know if we should put the feelers out for continuing NHS healthcare. Would they lock her up forever which was her worst fear and then I will have betrayed her. I know even though she would be a priority for the behaviour domain in my opinion, this is unilkely to be granted because the money is just not in the pot. However, we like a lot of you are living a nightmare going round in circles wondering how we are going to cope with this. She would be self funding and could afford a basic care home,as she has some savings and a house but I question, like with Fionas dad, whether they could cope, and would she end up bounced around getting more and more drugged. Should we ask the hospital to do an assessment before she is discharged for continuing healthcare as even if she does not get it , it will be preparation for the future. Or is it best just to keep quiet and try and sneak her into a basic care home and keep our fingers crossed it works out. Or even take her back to her own home and keep fingers crossed she stops the wandering and fighting us. I really dont know what questions we should be asking if they turn round tomorrow and tell us she is our responsibility do what you want with her and take her away or do they act as bullies telling us what we have to do even if we think it would be a disaster. i suppose my point is she is a complex character but they dont really dont know her - all they have done is drug her to try and make her comply. Is that what would happen if she got continuing healthcare, just increasing the dose until she became a sort of zombie?
Sorry if that is a horrid word to use but it is how I feel and sorry if this all sounds very confused, but I am confused as usual as to what is best. what others have experienced?