Im with Butter on this one, i would refuse to go. Putting our loved ones in care is traumatic enough for the carer, they shouldnt expect you to do their job. My dad often takes his clothes off, ive no idea why, but the staff usually manage to get him dressed eventually with a little persuasion. It beggars belief that they dont know how to deal with a resident that wont get dressed, surely they must see this scenario now and again. I was asked once if i would go to the CH to bathe or shower my dad and i said no, thats what they get paid for. My dad was and still is a demon when it comes to getting washed and he will fight to the death to avoid it. He kicks, bites, scratches, nips, punches, and belt you with any object near to his hand, the cistern lid is one example. He does this every day and has done since he went into care 4 years ago. They have never once asked me or told me he'd need to be removed and im sure there must be others who have challenging behaviour. They should not be putting this on your doorstep, stay strong and dont be talked into anything you dont want to do. I feel for you and your poor dad but he needs more care than you can provide. Leave it to them to find the solution.