Loss

[Loopiloo]

Dear Karen

I have only just caught up with your thread after my absence and am very sorry and sad that you are feeling so low.

I wish I could say something helpful, as do so many of us here, but realise I can't, can only feel for you. Also empathise... Some of what Pied and Helen wrote could be me writing. Like Pied during bad times sometimes I need to be alone, sometimes I need to talk it out.

Or to be accurate, write it out because TP is the only place I have ever 'talked'/written so openly. There truly is something special, something unique about TP and here I have opened up as never before. I think doing that since I joined has saved my sanity. For a very very long time I was too alone in myself. Although when I look at my lengthy posts afterwards I can't believe it is me.

But many of us know that before we found TP it was practically impossible to talk to others in our lives about how our lives had become, living with a loved one suffering dementia. To talk about our inner thoughts, feelings, to express ourselves knowing that there was understanding there. So we kept it all within, the effort to 'explain' to those who well meaningly did talk the platitudes but lacked the true understanding was too exhausting.

It can be the same concerning other things happening in our lives.

But this is not about me, it is about you Karen. Where you are is a horrible place to be, and although I understand the need to withdraw into youself and away from other people, there is a danger if this goes on too long.

I'm not by any means lecturing, but I do hope you will in time let someone in, and you know you have sincere caring friends here on TP. There is no pressure to talk if you don't want to do so, or to meet any expecations. As Helen said

Actually my purpose is not to help. I realise that I cannot help. I was going because it is what Kassie wanted but it was never to go to help. It was just to go and 'be' with. Two people sharing space together for a little while.

I hope a time will come soon when you feel you can arrange the postponed meetings with Sallly and with Helen, knowing they are there for you.

We are all here for you if and when you do feel like writing, and you are in our thoughts.

Not well said and as usual I have written too much. I'm just so deeply saddened by your unhappiness, Karen, and concerned about you, as are all those who have written here.

With my love
Loo xxx

[kassy]

After spending the past few hours arguing with my husband i have decided there really is no point anymore.

[piedwarbler]

Kassy we love and care for you. Xxxx

[sallyc]

Kassy

Pied is right.

You know how much I care about you.

You only have to look at the length of this thread to see how much people here care.

You know where I am. And I am here anytime of the day or night, on my phone.

Love you xxx

[Saffie]

Sally is right Kassy. We all care about you and so want you to feel better and find happiness in life again. XXX

[turbo]

Hello kassy, I care too.


turbo

[piedwarbler]

I've sent you a PM xxxx

[Jancis]

Dear Kassy,
The universe and TP cares about you.
Love Jancis xxxxxxxx

[piedwarbler]

Kassy? Are you ok? Please let us know you're reading xx

[florence43]

Dearest Karen,

Just drop us a line. It can be quick. Your TP family are very worried.

No details, just that you're ok tonight. I know you don't intentionally want to add to our concerns, but because we care so very much, we need to know you're ok.

Please?

Sending much love, and concern, xxxxxxxxxx

[Nanak]

Hi Kassy
Thinking of you this morning. I am hoping you are fast asleep and I'm sending you ((((hugs)))).
Nanak
missing what has gone and scared of what is to come

[sallyc]

Kassy love

Its 3am. I just woke up and needed to let you know I'm thinking of you.

Sending you so much love.

[Tender Face]

Me too, Kassy. Up at 5am, could hear the blackbirds singing and was just thinking of that phrase ‘the darkest hour is just before the dawn’ before I popped onto TP. So sorry to read the latest posts on this thread.

That phrase is so true of Easter weekend isn’t it? I can’t recall what if any faith you have ... but I personally find Easter inspirational – that ‘very darkest hour’ ... and then the hope that springs .... (even if you are a non-believer it’s a magical tale).

If I can do nothing else (I am running out of ideas and thoughts to help, I confess) I can hold you in my thoughts and prayers – until you find a ray of hope in and for yourself.

I am here, in the background, willing you on as ever ....

Love, Karen, x

[turbo]

Hello kassy, I'm so worried about you.


turbo

[Contrary Mary]

I am here, in the background, willing you on as ever ....

Another who is thinking about you today.

Mary
x