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[florence43]

Sally and Helen,

If you don't mind the extra load, could you also take a massive GUFFAW (thanks to Lin's post about "heads in uncomfortable places"!) along to Kassy, with an extra dollop of hugs from me, please? If there is no more room in the car, stick my guffaw and hugs on the roof rack, but be sure to tie them down safely. I really want them to get to Karen!

Sounds like a party's going down this Easter!!! Hope you all have some well-deserved peace (and Easter eggs?) together and forget about the rubbish things that can happen. Enjoy the good things..the friendships, the chocolate, the changeable British weather, and the simplicity of being together. Then enjoy the memories of them for a long while after.

Don't forget my guffaw and hugs...

xxxxx

[Izzy]

Squeeze another hug in please!

[Contrary Mary]

Hello Kassy. Sounds as though you have two good days to look forward to. As for your son's girlfriend, well, it sounds as though things like TP wouldn't be needed in her world if we could control our emotions. Silly girl, is the politest thing I can say.

Sending a hug.
Mary
x

[jan.s]

Hi Kassy
How exciting that you have a couple of great days coming up! I hope the weather is fine, but I don't suppose that matters a bit. Enjoy all your hugs as well as florence's guffaws (what does a guffaw look like? Is it like a gruffalo only smaller?)

Hope today is an Ok day for you.
Love and hugs
Jan xx

[Helen33]

I've got my wellies and rain coat on the ready We'll make the sun shine I'm sure

I reckon with all the hugs that Kassie will be getting she'll be squashed in the process. She'll have to have them spread over the days

Love

[Authona]

Hi,

First of all, a hug to everyone from me ... perhaps pass this one around as its big enough for all of us and I think we all need that And here's hoping those of you meeting up have a lovely day or two because its a great chance to be all the things you want to be on here but can't because you are not together in person...

Ax

[Dibs]

A (((((((((((((((HUGE HUG))))))))))))))))))) from me too.
Dibs (Deborah) xxx

[Tender Face]

You know, I am always loathe to make any negative comments about one ‘party’ or the other where there is a relationship breakdown. I have fallen foul of that in the past – to find a relationship subsequently repaired and then me the ‘bad guy’ for having made such comments which has then damaged the very friendship I was trying to support (not to mention also hindered that relationship repair because my ‘judgements’ clouded the way).

Kassy, I have tried to understand why your son (and DIL) may behave and react as they do. I wonder .... there is a lot of fear and denial going on? Obviously your son will know what depressive state your own mother was in ... he himself you say has had a depressive ‘episode’ at least. I wonder if he is fearful? If he now sees you, too, caught in this state that practically debilitates you on many levels – does he worry the same may happen to him in later life? I see a ‘scared little boy’ who wants his mum to be strong .... because he wants to know this is not going to be a genetic fate for himself if he is already susceptible to depression. (I’m with tre’s post #441 – think we are both thinking on similar lines ...). It’s a thought to throw into the mix ....... because I hate to see a relationship between a mother and child (whatever ages) reach the beyond-redemption point ....... so there has to be a two-way process of trying to understand each side ..... and why reactions are as they are .....

To happier thoughts ..... how wonderful to have both Sally and Helen seeing you this week. I know I have rarely talked about my experiences with mum off-forum except for dear friends I met on-forum who I knew came with that invisible safety net and a bucket load of understanding no-one else could manage.

I am going to be greedy and ask both of them to pass on a hug from me!

Please, know I am thinking of you – not around or posting on TP as much as I used to be as you know ... but always thinking of you .....

Love, Karen, x

[Saffie]

Kassy - thinking of you . I hope the weather is good for your days with Sally and Helen.
Sending love XXXX

[maryw]

Kassy - thinking of you too and wishing days filled with fun and laughter with Sally and Helen xx

[sallyc]

Unfortunately my get together with kassy tomorrow has had to be cancelled as kassy is not feeling too great. I will, however, hold onto your lovely hugs and promise to pass them all on when we re-arrange for another time.

Unless kassy feels well enough, on Friday, to see Helen - in which case I'll ask Helen to take them instead.

In the meantime I'm sure you will all want to join me in sending kassy lots and lots of love, and bucketloads of positive vibes.

[Izzy]

Aw what a shame. I hope you manage a visit soon. x

[turbo]

Hello sally, I hope kassy will be able to meet up with you and your family soon.

turbo

[Contrary Mary]

Hello Sally, I am so sorry to hear that Kassy is not up to meeting you at the moment. Dear Kassy, hope you feel a bit better soon.

((((HUG))))
Mary
x

[florence43]

Dear Kassy & Sal,

Although tomorrow has been postponed, the hugs have no use-by date, so don't worry.

Karen, I hope you get well very soon, maybe for Helen's visit on Friday, or very soon after, if not.

Sending loads of love for a speedy recovery, and an extra hug or two to keep you going til Sal & Helen get there with the real thing...xxx