I can cope with most thing but my mother has bowel problems which is fine as I know she cannot help it and I sort it accordingly. I have her using disposable underwear as I feel it is more hygienic all round.
On the occasions she has an 'accident' she will from time to time try and wash them and leaves this dripping filty mess in the bathroom.
Well she did it this morning and I dont feel well (stress probably) and I could have become violent - stopped myself but it really upsets me that something like looking after someone with AD can bring you almost to the unforgivable. I could cry and I feel awful now!