I visited a care home this week in preparation for the future as I am not sure how much longer I can cope. He is not severe but I am on my own every night and every weekend. I work full time and struggle now to keep my patience when it take 1 1/2 hours to get him in the bath however, I think but may be kidding myself, that he still has moments of clarity and keeps saying he wants to stay with me and 'you'll never leave me'. I do have care week days and have used the full amount I am entitled to.
When I went to the home it was OK and the staff seemed very nice but it is the same old problem of them all being old. It did not appear anyone was really under 70 and I worry what he would think as he can see and I am sure it will register he is in an old peoples home who appear to watch TV and sleep. If I keep him at home then he is isolated as he won't go out of the house and no-one comes to visit anymore apart from the carers. How do you know when the time has come that you cannot look after them anymore and has anyone put a younger person in an older persons home?