I haven`t posted for sometime, coping with the gradual decline of my Mum. She is an EMI unit staffed by carers. I went on holiday 2 weks ago, and on the day before I left, as was surprised to read in the case notes, Mum was found the car park by resident relatives. I thought no more of it apart from carers now alerted. Off on holiday, enjoyed a relaxed week away. Rang i mid week, carers say she is restless. Carers thought she was looking for me. Got back the following Saturday, what a shock to see the difference in my Mum, she had been wandering around the unit night and day, tapping on windows, not eating nor drinking mobitity going. It wasn`t me she was looking for becuase whilst in the flat with a carer, off she went, so we followed and observed. By this Wednesday mobility completely gone, probably due to weakness not eating etc, also incontenance now and on Friday we all thought this was the end, however with care and encouragement, she has eaten some solids and appears to have rallied. She looks better in the mornings, and is completely shattered by the afternoon. I took the week of work last week to spend time with her and organised wheelchair, more care visits etc. She isn`t ready to be bed-bound, but I don`t think it is that far away, if she survives that long. Its been a terrible week. I`m a mess trying to cope and come to the terms with the sudden decline. Not sure I can return to work yet. Its a day t a time. This massive decline caught me by surprise and its taking me time to adapt, she my leave me for good tonight, tomorrow, next week ??? Sorry just needed to let you know. She is now sleeping more at night and carers now calling in every 1/2hr during day and night to check on her. This is so so hard to deal with. I was just thinking I was recovering from the trauma of last year having made the discovery there was something seriously wrong with Mum, choosing a home, moving her with her permission and witnessing her decline when BANG.
I`m still taking the Kalms!
Bye for now and thanks