I posted last March for the first time and was grateful for the supportive responses I received. Since then my Mum has been placed in a care home after being burgled - she was in her flat at the time and had left her front door unlocked. Thankfully, she wasn't hurt in any way but had all her jewellery stolen.
She's now living at a lovely care home and we all visit when we can. However, she still asks when is it safe for her to go back to her flat. We are sure she's being cared for properly but it's very sad to see her there.
My OH and I have been talking about moving down to live with her so that she can move back into her flat and then she will be looked after by her own family - which is no less than she deserves after dedicating nearly all her life to looking after us (I'm the eldest of six children). It's a huge decision to make and we know that it won't be easy to look after someone with dementia (even though she's my mother) but surely this would be better than being cared for by strangers. We both work full-time so it will be quite a radical life style change for us but we have a very strong marriage so hopefully we can support each other whilst caring for Mum. My OH cares about my mum as if she was his own mother (from whom he was estranged for many years before she died).
Obviously, all my brothers and sisters have to agree to this and they may not for various reasons but I wondered what thoughts people have about taking this decision.