Hallo. Mum has recently been diagnosed with alzheimers following a stay in hospital, after she was admitted with signs of dementia, for a period of ten days - turns out she had a chest infection. She has been showing the signs for probably a couple of years but had not received a diagnosis.
When she first came out of hospital she was open to the idea of moving to warden controlled accommodation (she lives on her own) and I was organising this for her. She now refuses point blank and is going around estate agents getting her house valued and wanting to move to a smaller house. She hasn't taken on board what the doctor (who has given a letter in support of her going into warden controlled accommodation) myself or anyone else has said to her and does not understand that there is anything wrong with her.
She has now stopped taking the aricept which was recently prescribed for her and says it gives her bad dreams and thinks she was only taking it to help her sleep. She has completely forgotten about her time in hospital. Keeps ringing up the same estate agents, keeps making appointments to have her eyes tested (when she is under the opthamology department at the hospital but has forgotten). Says there is nothing wrong with her except her age (she is 87).
I am trying to back off a little as she thinks I am interfering and trying to stop her doing what she wants to do. A social worker came to see her and suggested she should stay in her present home and perhaps have a stair lift and a pendant alarm until such time as she needs more care, which she agreed to and then changed her mind.
I am finding it very difficult to deal with her as anything she agrees to she forgets and accuses me of making it up. Physically she is well and she goes out and about a lot. I feel as if I am just waiting for a crisis to happen which, from reading other posts on this site, is probably what I will have to wait for.
Any suggestions would be welcome. Should I just let her put her house on the market and look at other properties and step in to say no if necessary (she would not be able to deal with a move without my help). I deal with all her finances for her and she has forgotten what capital she has etc.