I cant stop shaking and crying I'm so hurt. I cared for my mom for 10yrs+ the last few years with the dreaded dementia. ending up moving in with her and giving her 24hr care. no one else in the family bothered. one brother would visit once a week. my sister 4 times a year .but my younger brother who lives just up the road and his daughters all qualified carers also living a few yards away never bothered with mom at all. mothers day birthdays xmas was allways just the 3 cards younger brother would put some slop on facebook. no use to mom of course. sadly mom passed away in May. Ive tried so hard to keep all of them informed of arrangements costing me a fortune in texts ect. it has been a hard time as all my life revolved around mom even my finances I was on £55.55 cares and topped up with £30 income support. once mom died I have been put on sickness benefit, (depression) now I have to survive and run the flat I shared with mom on £67 also I lost the car. so its been hard. then on Sunday night I had a email from this brother almost calling me a liar about moms money. she had an account with £1500 in. but also was paying a credit card debt she ran up at the start of her dementia with the same bank. so her account was frozen when she died and as the amount in her account is now her estate they will obviously take this as payment on the card. he thinks I have had it. he also says that I am lying when I say that mom had to pay for respite in care home as he says that unless you have £16000 saving then all care is free in a private nursing home. and that his daughters have confirmed this.
how do I prove this is untrue. mom was means tested on everything. she was a council house tennant and was on pension credit but still had to contribute if outside help was involved which is why I did most of it myself. I am disgusted that he turned his back on mom when she was alive but now wants to know everything just incase there is anything for him. I have given him and his daughters all of moms gold jewelery. as they wanted something to remember her by. but they didnt want just anything it had to be the gold. I cant beleive the times my mom has cried as he used to pass her as she stood at the gate and he never stopped to say hello. has any one else had this with family it hurts so much