My first time in the forum and have been upbuilt and also saddened by many of the notes that I've read.
My Dad has vascular dementia.
After seeing our Mum on the verge of a breakdown we had to take things out of her hands and the hospital were ready to give Mum a rest and Dad some respite care.
It all happened so quickly 18 months ago. Dad hasn't been home since.
We soon realised that he was not able to come home and needed specialist care. The hospital were wonderful, but Dad knew what was going on, even though he has dementia and I will never forget the night we took him in. We all feel so guilty as we had to lie to get him in the car.
He now lives in a EMI unit and the staff care for him wonderfully - although he's progressed further in the last few months.
He now doesn't speak - only yes/no and will not eat.
He used to love cups of tea and picking at sandwiches, but won't even touch them now. He won't even drink his Ensure and they are having to monitor not only his food intake, but what he's offered.
What happens now? The home just keep saying that we have to wait and see, but it's only down hill from here, so what will happen?
He's in his 70s. Will they just let nature takes it's course or will the feed him intrevenously? We don't want to see Dad suffer and prolonge the illness, but we don't want him to waste away and die from forgetting to eat.
Can anyone advise if they have been through this? Or what can be done for him now?
We love him and miss him so much - we just want the best treatment we can get for him.