Hi, I am new to this forum. My mother is 87 and has had dementia for about six years. Last August I managed to get her assessed by psychiatric service as high moderate re dementia. They offered ongoing services plus social services did assessment too and offered in-home support. My mother refused all assistance. She denies all memory problems. The services said they could do nothing without her agreement.
I have a brother who lives in England who offers some support but he struggles in this role and finds it very difficult to remain supportive. I live in another country and spend my holidays with my Mom - usually can get back three times per year. But this is not enough.
Does anyone have any suggestions on how I might get my mother to accept help? I want her to remain in her own home because she loves her home and garden. I feel she is experiencing neglect.
I worry so much about her. I phone her before I go to work and again as soon as I get home so that we can have long chats but I know this is not enough. She struggles with depression because she does not have enough social contact. Plus, I worry if she is eating reg.
She has always been very independent and cannot accept help. At the same time she is no longer able to carry on without help.
How does capacity work in England? Any suggestions would be much appreciated.