Happy Christmas to everyone. I've posted a few times about my dad (lives in a park home alone, recently got his licence taken away).
My dad's been in an assessment ward for the past two weeks and yesterday we had a meeting with the Consultant and various other professionals and we were told that he's got mixed vascular dementia (I think that's right) and a probable life expectancy of between 2 months and 2 years. He's deteriorated so rapidly in 3 weeks (mostly since he's been in the unit) - it's like he's fallen off a cliff in terms of his understanding of the world and his grasp of "today". Poor old dad ;-(
They believe he is no longer capable of independent living (he lives alone) even with care support and they recommend residential care - preferably somewhere that when he gets worse, he won't have to move again and that could deal with his eventual increasing medical needs. Part of me is shocked and upset it's happened so quickly but part of me knows their conclusion is right and it's the best place for him to be. Would that be a "dementia care home with nursing" that would prevent him from having to be moved again? Is that the same as EMI and what does EMI mean?
They've contacted Social services to do an assessment and I assume the SW will contact us for our input but meanwhile they've said we should start looking for suitable homes. I suppose they are one of the few places that are all open over Christmas!
I'm probably worrying myself unecessarily (I generally do) but what's the likelihood of the SW going against the recommendation of the doctors/consultants and not coming to the same conclusion? Will they try and say he can cope (with a care package) and send him back to his home alone? I want to be able to visit him regularly too, so don't really want them to suggest a home that's miles away from where I live.
I'm dreading the whole thing - particularly the financial side (I have an active Lasting Power of Attourney with my brother).
Does anyone have any tips on what to look out for at this stage? We've found lots of Age Concern Links on the financial side and also I found a post on here that linked to a copy of the Assessment Form (really interesting).
Not a good start to Christmas ;-(