Where do I start. My father in law who is 91 is I believe showing signs of dementia. My husband his only son is at his wits end because of his father's behaviour. He is accusing him now on a daily basis of moving or stealing things from his house. My father in law is a very stubborn man who will not accept any outside help, so everything is left to my husband. My husband (Alan) has given up doing the housework because of the accusations but his father still accusing him. Alan phones several times a day (as we do not live nearby) only to have his father shout and rant down the phone at him that he has stolen more items, all of which are trivial things like phone books, packs of cards, he keeps on at Alan wanting him to say that he has taken them, Alan tries to calm him but he puts the phone down. He has also got upset because he found a jumper in his house which he said wasnt his, it was of course.
Why am I contacting your forum because like my husband we dont know what to do. We are assuming it is dementia.
It is no good suggesting he sees as doctor as he is adamamant it is not him who is moving these items, and does not like doctors.
I am at my wits end because it is affecting my husband's health he is getting short tempered and we end up arguing.
Any suggestions by anyone as to who we could speak to in confidence so that my father in law would not know.