Hello there I wonder if anyone could advise me.
My father is 82 years and has been diagnosed with Vascular Dementia/Alzheimers earlier this year. He is cared for at home by my Mother also 82yrs.
They have a carer first thing in the morning to wash and dress him (when he does not refuse it!).
My Father's dementia is gathering a pace, he is often incontinent, he wanders outside and falls (paramedic is called quite regularly), verbally abusive and dismissive to my Mother and it is getting so difficult to pacify him.
My concern is my Mother she is exhausted. I contacted Social Services in October 09 to raise the concern and recommend some respite care and home help. They were very nice on the phone said they would look into it but nothing happened.
My Mother in a moment of strength contacted my Father's Mental Health Doctor in early Nov 09 regarding this, and he said he would contact SS to be in touch.
Now 3 weeks later nothing has happened, I rang SS today and while they were helpful and understanding, apparently they are waiting for my Father to be allocated a Care Manager and Assessor and this may take weeks!
I live 2 hours away and try to get down regularly to clean & cook when I can, I do the shopping via internet, but now my son is undergoing long term ill health and I have had to give up work to care for him.
Sorry for this long list but what can we do to speed up SS action?
I feel completely torn at the moment.