My mum has been diagnosed with alz and vascular dementia in aug 2009
She seems to cry an awful lot and i don't know why or how to best deal with it. She has always been an emotional person - "her bladder's near her eyeballs" is how her father described her - My mum has always been tough feisty optimistic and now she seems to sit weeping on and off throughout the day - i don't know what triggers it. When she's in this state - she looks for reasons to explain it, eg its my medication doing it, its cause i never go out (not true) its since i moved to live here, its because i'm lonely, etc i don't think its any of these, i wonder if its the alzh making her upset- changing her personality.
Yesterday when i was with her she kept crying and then coming up with all these reasons and i'd go through each one everytime it came up, like "mum, you go out to lots of activities, so you can't say that's true" or "Mum. you never saw anyone where you lived before and now you see loads of people". Then it all starts again and i go through it all again with her. There doesn't seem to be any logic to it all.
One minute she'll be fine chatting happily with my aunt or whoever and the next thing she crying and its all doom and gloom.
I can speak to her on the phone and she seems fine then half an hour later my aunt or somebody is on the phone telling me how upset my mum is and will i try and calm her down. This is happening more, sometimes its twice a day i get a phone call - its very stressful - it feels like i'm talking to a petulant child - not my mum.