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I wish that I could share with Sharon the support that you give us, but I take it in and that helps us both - thank you.

Keith, I have just come across your thread. I cannot imagine how tumultuous this past week must have been for you. I so hope that your wife is settling in and you are somewhat adjusting to the new...

Today is Sharon's 58th birthday. No cake, balloons or silly hats this year. I wondered if she would make it this far, and she has; although she won't make it much further.

She has been in bed...

I'm pretty sure that if I had known it was going to last 2 years I would not have coped. Through the course of this journey I have always tried to never think much or worry about the future, and just...

Hi CG

For a while Sharon's behaviour was similar to your mum's. For a couple of years I did most of my communicating with our girls and friends by e-mail as in person visits consisted of dancing...

Hi Tarababe,

I am sorry that you are going through the stress of an inquest on top of dealing with your mum's death, it is a double whammy that most don't face. However, an inquest is an...

You need to keep saying no, there is no way that is practical or kind to take a double incontinent person who refuses to deal with that problem to a public gathering. Even if he would wear pullups or...

Hi Embers,

Whether you continue to write is entirely up to you, I would hope you do; but, if you chose not to, I do hope you will continue to read and be a part of this group that way. A sham you...

Hi Malc,

The sitter had no right discussing anything with anyone but you and her superior, you are right to be upset with this. As for others not understanding this is unfortunately quite common....

BE, whatever choice you make, nothing can take away from what you have done for the past 4 years. If you stay on this path and collapse who will be there to care for your mum? But if you take a...

Hi Reenie,

Welcome, I think you will find several others here in similar situations, unfortunately this is not as uncommon as most of us believed before we were affected. My wife was diagnosed at...

Hi lymara,

Welcome to TP. I don't know if your mum is able to be active and alert when she is not sleeping, if so it may be worth talking to her doctor - maybe anti-depressants could be of some...

glad your visit went well. It must be quite a relief knowing that they can pull it together and give her the care she deserves. Now, if they will keep it up life will be much better!

Anyone who is comfortable working with electricity could easily either by-pass the switched socket or replace the switched with a non-switched socket, so that the lamp is only turned off by...

I am sorry for all you and your mum are going through. We have experienced similar with my FIL, eyeglasses and hearing aids go missing, new clothing disappears whilst other clothing shows up (and...

My condolences to you and the family, a peaceful end is the best any of us can hope for.

Hi Margaret,
I'm sorry your latest visit to see George at the CH was not as good as the earlier two, but it does sound as if you were able to have a nice time with him today.

Sharon tried an...

Hi Margaret,

I'm glad you had a nice visit with George today. I find that a few nice moments have the power to make up for a lot of less nice times. The simple joy of a handhold or a smile can...

No useful suggestions I'm afraid, but sending lots of good wishes that things settle down for him your way.

Your mum's days in company are numbered, but the numbers may not be as low as you fear. We trimmed down our list of who we visited, there were periods when visiting didn't work, but later - there...

As technology moves to less direct user input and more voice and action recognition (and eventually to thought recognition) I can picture more and more technological bedlam in the homes of those with...

Hi Wildy,

I think your amateur answer may be correct. Can you try advancing teatime to just before bed, hopefully your dad isn't one of those absolutely rigid about mealtime types :)

Also, if...

Margaret, it is so good to hear of the wonderful visit you were able to have with George tonight. I can only imagine how difficult this separation must be for you. And yet, if having him go to this...

I hope the next 12 hours, and the following few days go well for both of you. Sometimes doing the best thing and the right thing ends up being the hardest.

Hi Northern Star,

Caring is never easy and some people never say enough is enough, but that doesn't mean they are right, or supercarers! I think if the situation is causing the carer undue stress...