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Dear BE
I know so well the sadness of seeing someone you love lost to the ravages of dementia, there’s no pain like it. All you want to do is protect them and lessen their anxiety, there’s a...

Dear SWMBO1950

Do hope everything runs smoothly while you’re away and you get to unwind on a well deserved holiday. I’d be the same and want to ensure that anyone covering was fully briefed, I’m...

Dear Lyn

Terribly sorry to hear things are no better right now – it sounds like you’re going through hell.

Only to say that my dad sometimes leans markedly in one direction but after a short...

Dear BE

I can hear from your post that your thresh-hold is close to being reached. It’s so hard isn’t it. Like you we were determined to keep dad in his own home for as long as possible and in...

Dear Lyn

I remember your situation from some time ago and what a tough time you were going through and am sorry again you’re experiencing problems. Dad was also aggressive on occasions and know...

Sorry I don't know of any companies to help but see you've had no responses so am just refreshing your post. After 6 yrs of caring you're definitely in need of a good break and am sorry you're now...

Dear Stephanie

I’m very sorry to read your post and how sad you’ve been feeling lately. As a daughter whose dad has also been struck down with this awful illness I can completely empathise with...

Dear Jenny

So sorry to hear of the loss of your dear husband. Even though you were expecting it, nothing can fully prepare you and it must all still feel very unreal. For now, take only one day at...

Hi Cadders

Yes, there are agencies that can provide trained dementia carers to look after your MIL on a temporary/ longer term basis. They would all have had CRB checks and thorough vetting,...

We use Depend Mens Pull Up Pants from Boots which are a nice, snug fit and never slip down. About £9.99 for 16, I think Boots do their own brand too. Stretchy waist means they can comfortably...

Dear Craft

Sincere condolences on the loss of your mum. She is at peace now.

Wishing you strength.

Px

Do hope the cat is found safe & well. As garnuft says looks like a pet isn’t possible for someone whose memory isn’t reliable if they’re living on their own. Perhaps you could get another cat she...

Dear Sylvia
I remember your post from last week, my dad also came down with a chest infection & was put on AB’s about the same time as Dhiren. We must be running in parallel. After initially...

Hi, this factsheet includes info on both 'sundowning' and 'asking to go home', both of which are very common phenomenon's with dementia, not in any way to minimise though how difficult they are to...

Dear Muriel
From all that you’ve posted I know how raw your loss of Bryan still feels at times and on an anniversary I’m sure the sadness amplifies even more. Please though try not to dwell on...

Hi there

We used 3 or 4 bed pads and a waterproof mattress protector from John Lewis (own brand).

Dear Jeanette

Just another well-wisher saying well done for doing what you needed in order to recharge and replenish yourself. It must feel strange this evening as no doubt you’re probably still...

Hi, so sorry things are very tough at present. When placing someone in a home it's our worst fear that they won't settle and in a way it's hard for us to settle (mentally) until they do too. My dad...

Thank you for letting us know what happened, seems your gut feeling to move your mum proved right! Lovely to hear your mum’s routine is unaltered and it was such a smooth transition. You’ll feel...

That’s so sweet and know animals can have enormous therapeutic value for those with dementia (not to mention the carers too!) Afraid we haven’t been in exactly the same situation although my dad...

Hi there
It’s such a difficult time when you take the plunge for a permanent placement and we all want to get it right first time. Sorry your dad wasn’t happy in respite and no doubt this has made...

Dear Jenny

I remember your previous posts and am terribly sorry to hear that the end seems nigh but at the same time greatly admire your strength in now being reconciled to ‘what is’. The descent...

Hi Trisha
Sorry to hear you’re experiencing night-time problems with your dad, that’s very tough.
We also had similar problems with my dad waking during the night and the doctor eventually...

Another message of sincere condolence on the loss of your tremendous mum. It sounds as though she passed away very silently and peacefully, something we’d all wish for. Px

So glad Dhiren is better,you must have been very worried. We’ve been through almost exactly the same thing. Dad went downhill over weekend with a hacking cough and soaring temperature, emergency...