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I had planned to do that for my mum, but when the time came I just didn't have the energy and just went with the pneumonia the doctor put on the certificate. No mention of the dementia that had...

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I don't know what your solution is but most people caring for someone with AD reach a crisis point and I honestly think you have reached yours. For me it was when I hid myself in the cupboard...

What an awful lot you have had to deal with. I bet you have had no time at all to grieve for your dad yourself. This is definitely the place to rant, but I do get the feeling that you are...

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Poor you and your mom, and what a totally useless gerontologist.

You cannot cure your mom of this awful disease, but she clearly needs to be in an environment now where she is encouraged...

We had this situation with my 90 year old inlaws. FIL has dementia and MIL totally unsympathetic. Not in denial that he has dementia, but wasn't making any allowances for him whatsoever. Picked...

This was a big problem with my mum. Often it would be the first sign of a UTI, but during the last couple of years her appetite just disappeared.

I found that she would eat more in the morning...

We converted a large attached garage to a lounge and kitchenette, plus built a bedroom and bathroom above, with own staircase. It was assessed and no increase or separate Council Tax was incurred. ...

I too went for the button tags

http://www.easy2name.com/product.htm?product=easytags

Like FifiMo said, the CH loved them and now recommend them to all their clients.

Mixed thoughts. This topic was raised on a Caring with Confidence course I went on. The chap running it made this point. If you go into an empty room, say a restaurant, do you go for a side...

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another member kindly let me know about this post, as I only dip into TP occasionally these days and would probably have missed it.

I have pm'd you with details of where mum was - hope this...

Great post from Witzend.

I must confess we did end up making appointments for the first visits to Care Homes as we wanted to make sure the manager was available to show us around. Second and...

There is a huge newly built one near us, Surrey/West Sussex Border. Friends mother has moved in there and was quoted £1800 per week. They negotiated it down to £1100. If a place is new and not...

My 90 year old inlaws moved into a care home in November. FIL has dementia and neither are very mobile. They have two single beds in a shared room. Normal costs are £500 per week but they have taken...

Lets be honest, none of us want to endure dementia or to put our family through the trials of caring for us when we can no longer look after ourselves.

However, as things stand many of us will...

Like many I started out on mum's Alzheimers journey very miffed that she was going to have to pay for her care. By the end I was just so grateful that she had the money and we could chose the best...

I am actually too angry and too many thoughts going around in my mind to respond to Mr Lamb directly.

From all of us who have not only cared for our loved ones, but put our own lives and health...

Since entering Dementia World with my mum, I have met many people who are caring for parents or partners. However sad I felt my situation was with my mum, it always seemed 100 times worse for those...

I too hope she is released from her suffering soon and as peacefully as possible.

Thinking of you.

(((hug)))

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From personal experience we were asked about DNR for mum when we were filling in all the initial forms. I had no hesitation in saying yes, as I knew she probably only had another year left,...

Just what I was going to say. Have been so ashamed of how I had spoken to my mum on more than one occasion, and she really didnt deserve it. But we are only human and all need some release from the...

Christmas 2011 was mum's first and only Christmas in a Care Home. Sadly it meant nothing to her, in just the same way the year before it had meant nothing when living with us. For me too, this is...

This is the one place where we can say the unsayable, think the unthinkable, which probably helps many of us keep moderately sane.

Your very brave and honest post will probably encourage more than...

Oh Sue, this cannot go on.

Firstly sit back and look at your mum's situation. She is clearly frightened and totally unable to comprehend what is going on around her. As you say, she wants...

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I would be looking for homes now. You have obviously done the best to make her safe, but to me it sounds that she is at very high risk. What happens if she falls and knocks her head, or...

Me too. Even though I will be 60 next year, this is my first Christmas without either of my parents, and it is quite an odd feeling :(